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Couples Counselling
From Disconnection to Deep Connection — Together
After the initial stage of falling love with your partner, the euphoria of love fades. You and your partner
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may have recurrent arguments
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feel emotional distance or estrangement
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may have struggles related to financial disagreements, parenting styles, or in-law dynamics
You may feel stuck in patterns of poor communication, where misunderstandings persist and emotional needs remain unmet. Over time, you may feel disconnected, resentful, or lonely within the relationship. You want to get back the intimacy between you and your partner but no one had taught you how.
Intimacy comes from the courage to tell the truth and the grace to hear it.
- Terry Real
At Coastal Forest Counselling, we guide couples through this process using the wisdom of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) by famous therapist Terry Real — backed by neuroscience, rooted in compassion, and delivered with clarity.
How RLT Works
RLT focuses on both partners equally and supports each person in:
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Taking radical personal responsibility.
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Identifying and changing toxic relational patterns rooted in childhood trauma, socialization, or learned behavior.
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Learning new relational skills, including emotional regulation, boundary setting, and effective communication.
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Rebuilding trust and intimacy through vulnerability and accountability.
RLT doesn’t shy away from conflict—it teaches you how to fight fair, speak truthfully, and stay connected, even in difficult moments.
Why RLT Works
Relational Life Therapy isn’t about rehashing old arguments or endlessly analyzing childhood wounds (though we honor your history). Instead, it focuses on:
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Radical honesty — with kindness
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Real-time coaching in how to speak and listen
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Breaking gender and power imbalances
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Building new skills for lasting connection
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What to expect in couples counselling
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We will start from the goals you hope to achieve through counselling. You and your partner will talk about the realities of both sides. Some tools and roadmap will be introduced to help you both understand what you are experiencing. ​
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We will get to the root of behaviors patterns. You and your partner come to understand how your early relationships and experiences have created a template for your intimate relationships. Through experiential work together the feelings towards each other would be transformed.​
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You and your partner will practice different ways of interacting with each other that can look and feel different from before.
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You will grow to listen to each other’s views with kindness and curiosity and understand the conflict between you and your partner as “a signal to learn and grow”.
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At Coastal Forest Counselling, Yoly Lin provides compassionate and personalized support for couples seeking to strengthen their relationships and overcome challenges, through relationship counselling, marriage counselling, and couples counselling in Burnaby, Yoly offers a safe space to rebuild connection and improve communication. Whether you're exploring couples counselling in Vancouver area or looking for guidance in navigating complex emotions, Coastal Forest Counselling is dedicated to helping partners create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Coastal Forest Counselling offers compassionate and effective therapy for individuals and couples, helping you navigate life’s challenges and build resilience.
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501-3292 Production Way, Burnaby, BC, Canada
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